Dear mom who is parenting alone,
Parenting is tough. But parenting alone brings its own set of challenges. I have been parenting alone for over eight years now. It is not something that I think about doing, I just do it. Whatever needs to be done, I just do it. I’m sure that most of you feel the same. You just DO IT!! But in “just doing it”, it can become overwhelming. To be honest, sometimes I grow weary. Each of our parenting journeys look different. But, I just want to take time to encourage each of you. I want to introduce to some of you and remind others, of a few of God’s promises to keep us going, as we continue on the journey of parenting alone.
1) God loves you.
The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying: “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness. Jeremiah 31:3 (NIV)
It is human nature for us to want to “feel” and “be” loved. As a woman who parents alone, it may be hard to feel loved at one time or another. I am here to tell you that God loves you. There is no greater love than the love of God. If you immerse yourself in God’s love, you understand how wonderful it is to be loved. Take the time to build a loving relationship with God. Wrap yourself in his loving arms. I promise you there is no love like HIS love.
As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Abide in my love. John 15:9 (ESV)
2) God is with you.
The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” Deuteronomy 31:8 (NIV)
You are never alone. God promised that he will never leave you or forsake you. Everyone experiences seasons of highs and lows. But for a single mother, the “low” seasons can seem to be “lonely”. Just know that because you parent alone, that does not make you lonely. So, no matter what season that you are walking through, there is nothing to fear because God is always with you.
So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)
3) God will provide.
And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:19 (NIV)
As the provider for the family, at one time or another, finances may appear to be low. Notice that I said, “may appear to be low”. God will sustain you. Although, there may be times that you feel that you are struggling financially, know that Our Father is a provider. Through this journey of parenting alone, no matter what the situation is, was, or has been, God has always provided for us. God can turn what we think is a little, into abundance. Trust me, I have experienced Him do it time and time again. During those times when unexpected expenses come up, don’t worry, God will take care of those too. Keep your eyes on God and not your financial circumstances.
God will ALWAYS supply ALL our needs.
The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing. Psalm 23:1 (NIV)
And God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work. 2 Corinthians 9:8 (NIV)
4) God will protect.
The Lord is on my side; I will not fear. What can man do to me? Psalm 118:6 (ESV)
There is nothing that we should fear. Since God promised to never forsake us, he protects us. God’s protection is better than the protection that any person could ever provide. While we are sleeping, God our protector is watching over us and our children. Pray over yourself, your children, and your home, with the faith of knowing that God is our protector.
Indeed, he who watches over Israel will neither slumber nor sleep. Psalm 121:4 (NIV)
5) God will guide
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding;
verse6 In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.
Proverbs 3:5-6 (NJKV)
Are there times when you feel like you do not know what the next step? Are there times when you feel like you don’t know how to take the next step? Pray to God for his guidance daily. God will always provide guidance so that His will can be done. The key is that you be open and accepting to HIS will and guidance.
6) God will comfort.
As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you; and you will be comforted over Jerusalem.” Isaiah 66:13 (NIV)
Parenting alone can be and is exhausting and overwhelming at times. There are times when you are in emotional distress. It is ok, to feel overwhelmed from time to time. The key is not to panic or stay stuck in that state of overwhelm. Look up and talk to God. God can and will comfort you no matter the situation. He is there to comfort you no matter the time of day.
As a woman who parents alone, it is important that you take care of yourself. You can provide the best care for your children, when you are at your best. It is also important to build a support system. It may require that YOU seek out other people for support. Yes, unfortunately that may mean going out of your comfort zone and reaching out and asking others for help. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. You can find support groups online on social media, which can lead to face to face connections in your area.
And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9 (ESV)
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)
DEAR MOMMY, IT WILL BE OK. Take a deep breath and know that God has got your back. God has a plan for both you and your children. Always have faith and do not give up! I am cheering FOR you and WITH you!!
HIS LOV3 and MINE,
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Being a single parent is twice the work, twice the stress and twice the tears but also twice the hugs, twice the love and twice the pride.
Single moms: You are a doctor, a teacher, a nurse, a maid, a cook, a referee, a heroine, a provider, a defender, a protector, a true Superwoman. Wear your cape proudly.
A single mom tries when things are hard. She never gives up.
She believes in her family, even when things are tough. She knows that above all things... a mother's love is more than enough.